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What do I actually want our relationship to look and feel like? https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/f5f7b08a-d22b-4986-8b6e-7f22fe467e1d/side-view-mother-kid-silhouettes.jpg BLOGS - NEW YEAR, NEW US: WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP? - CREATE A COUPLE'S MISSION STATEMENT Once you have a better idea of what matters to both of you, turn those ideas into a simple mission statement for your relationship. It doesn't need to sound fancy. It doesn't need to be something you frame and hang over the fireplace. It just needs to sound like you. Think of it as a reminder of who you want to be as a couple and what you want your relationship to stand for. Maybe your relationship is about being playful and adventurous. Maybe it's about creating a peaceful home. Maybe it's about being a team. Maybe it's about raising your children while still making your marriage a priority. Maybe it's about honesty, affection, faith, family, growth, or simply learning how to enjoy each other again. There isn't a right answer. Your relationship is yours. So don't worry too much about creating the “perfect” mission statement. If you need some inspiration, there are plenty of examples online. Use them as a starting point, but don't let someone else's version of marriage become the standard for yours. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/f9da833f-cceb-43d8-b8bb-760796ae974f/imgi_46_man-standing-front-clock_379823-15014.jpg BLOGS - NEW YEAR, NEW US: WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIP? - YOU DON'T HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL EVERYTHING IS FIXED I think couples sometimes get stuck waiting for the relationship to feel “better” before they start doing things that create a better relationship. Don't wait. If you want more fun, make plans. If you want more quality time, protect it. If you want better communication, practice it. If you want more affection, start creating opportunities for it. If you want to feel like a team, start looking for ways to act like one. You don't have to completely fix your relationship before you can start enjoying it again. In fact, sometimes the positive experiences are what help give you the momentum to tackle the harder stuff. https://www.futuredayscounsel.com/blogs/so-youve-started-couples-therapy-now-what-n8yla monthly 0.5 2026-09-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/95b208b3-85f8-426d-9283-f03bbfb42041/Gemini_Generated_Image_kijakpkijakpkija.jpg BLOGS - SO YOU’VE STARTED COUPLES THERAPY… NOW WHAT? - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/4ddd6df7-c13a-4b7f-8eeb-96dd8c9e3b4f/Gemini_Generated_Image_unuystunuystunuy.jpg BLOGS - SO YOU’VE STARTED COUPLES THERAPY… NOW WHAT? - 1. BE HONEST—AND BE WILLING TO LISTEN Couples therapy works best when both people are willing to be real. That means being honest about what you need, what has hurt you, what you’re struggling with, and what you want to be different. It also means being willing to hear your partner’s experience—even when you don’t completely agree with it. There is a big difference between being honest and being hurtful. When it’s your turn to talk, say what you mean, but pay attention to how you’re saying it. And when it’s your turn to listen, try to understand before jumping in to defend yourself, explain your intentions, or prove your partner wrong. You don't have to agree with your partner’s perspective to be curious about it. Sometimes the most helpful question you can ask is simply, “Tell me more about that.” https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/24a3ba3b-8eec-4fa3-b6d5-08bbb9965b4e/side-view-woman-kid-high-five.jpg BLOGS - SO YOU’VE STARTED COUPLES THERAPY… NOW WHAT? - 5. NOTICE THE WINS This one is easy to overlook. When couples come to therapy, they usually have a pretty big goal in mind: We want to stop fighting. We want to trust each other again. We want to feel close. We want our sex life back. We want to actually like each other again. Those are important goals, but they can also make it easy to overlook the little things happening along the way. Did your partner ask what you needed instead of assuming? Did you speak up instead of keeping something to yourself? Did you handle an argument differently? Did you repair more quickly? Did you notice your partner making an effort? https://www.futuredayscounsel.com/blogs/is-couples-therapy-worth-the-investment-the-value-of-investing-in-your-relationship monthly 0.5 2026-09-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/1789957378655-0S9UQ09X1YT0YBQ6E1CB/Is+Couples+Therapy+Worth.png BLOGS - IS COUPLES THERAPY WORTH THE INVESTMENT? THE VALUE OF INVESTING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/1790415728761-O4GWRNT0LUO99WWUS3XU/unsplash-image-xfKEy_6x4pw.jpg BLOGS - IS COUPLES THERAPY WORTH THE INVESTMENT? THE VALUE OF INVESTING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP - HOW MUCH DOES COUPLES THERAPY COST IN BIRMINGHAM? There isn't a single answer. The cost of couples counseling varies depending on the therapist's training and experience, the type of therapy they provide, and the needs of the couple. Some couples may come to therapy to address a specific concern, such as communication or a recent conflict. Others are dealing with much deeper and longer-standing issues, including chronic conflict, infidelity, unresolved hurt, emotional trauma, or years of resentment. Those situations often require more time and intentional work. But the number of sessions isn't necessarily the best way to think about the value of couples therapy. A better question may be: https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/fb565632-8a24-41a7-b8e0-aaffc00d6921/unsplash-image-L8-0SAy-aoQ.jpg BLOGS - IS COUPLES THERAPY WORTH THE INVESTMENT? THE VALUE OF INVESTING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP - WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WORTH? Couples choose to invest in their relationships for many reasons. They want to: Strengthen their connection. Communicate more effectively. Feel closer emotionally and physically. Repair hurts and rebuild trust. Reduce destructive patterns of conflict. Improve the quality of their life together. Continue growing as individuals and as a couple. Create a relationship that feels more satisfying and sustainable. Ultimately, most couples aren't looking for a relationship without problems. They're looking for a relationship where they can face those problems together. https://www.futuredayscounsel.com/blogs/intentional-intimacy-why-sex-might-need-a-place-on-your-calendar monthly 0.5 2026-09-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/058c9370-c239-4c0d-b8d7-67e8fbe58455/b4574be2-7594-49b8-b78e-ec8623a468ae.jpg BLOGS - INTENTIONAL INTIMACY: WHY SEX MIGHT NEED A PLACE ON YOUR CALENDAR - SCHEDULE SEX. Usually there’s a laugh. Sometimes an eye roll. And almost always some version of, “But doesn't scheduling it take all the fun out of it?” I get it. Putting sex on the calendar doesn't exactly sound spontaneous, romantic, or sexy. It sounds a little more like scheduling a dentist appointment. But here's the thing: you probably scheduled sex all the time when you were dating. You just didn't call it that. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/1789957188044-NX877THVU94POX56N6UW/New+Year%2C+New+Us+What+Do+You+Want+for+Your+Relationship.png BLOGS - INTENTIONAL INTIMACY: WHY SEX MIGHT NEED A PLACE ON YOUR CALENDAR - YOU WERE MAKING SPACE FOR CONNECTION. Then life happened. Now there are kids who won't go to bed, emails that still need answering, laundry that somehow multiplies overnight, early mornings, late meetings, exhaustion, stress, and approximately 47 other things competing for your attention. Waiting until both of you are simultaneously rested, relaxed, interested, alone, and spontaneously in the mood can mean waiting a very long time. Sometimes intimacy needs a little help getting onto the schedule. 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A “not tonight” doesn't necessarily become “you never want me.” And a hug doesn't have to become “if I let this go any further, they're going to expect sex.” Reducing some of that pressure can actually make it easier for couples to enjoy affection again. https://www.futuredayscounsel.com/blogs/are-you-missing-your-partners-bids-for-connection monthly 0.5 2026-09-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6a81f396e619072d9ed891fe/7071aa50-35c5-45e9-929f-2ccdb0d2e1f1/ARE+YOU+MISSING+YOUR+PARTNER%E2%80%99S+BIDS+FOR+CONNECTION%3F BLOGS - ARE YOU MISSING YOUR PARTNER’S BIDS FOR CONNECTION? - Have you ever been sitting on the couch when your partner says: “Look at this.” They show you something on their phone. You glance over, give them a half-hearted “Hmm,” and go right back to whatever you were doing. No big deal, right? Maybe. But what if “look at this” wasn't really about the funny video? 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